From Heartbreak to Healing by Cara KochDr. Cara E. Koch is a Parental Alienation pioneer, expert, author and researcher who has written the upcoming book, From Heartbreak to Healing: Resolving Parental Alienation. The book recounts her own experience of 43 years as an alienated parent and outlines the vast progress made recently to renew parent/child relationships that may have seemed hopeless. Her book is also a call to action for reforming our mental health and legal approach to family law, so parent/child relationships are assured support through the divorce process and beyond.

She has a BS degree in child development and family relationships along with a MS degree in childcare administration. Her doctorate in children’s spirituality focuses on a relationship with self, others, the Earth and all-that-is.

When you bring Cara Koch in to present to your organization, she will engage participants in an enlivening and enlightening presentation.

“Your book is easy to read and digest, which is no small feat given the complexity of parental alienation and its devastating psychological effects on children caught in the middle. I just bought six copies of your book on Amazon. Can you do a virtual presentation for our large agency of mental health providers?”

–Carol D., director of a state-wide mental health agency


From Heartbreak to Healing . . . Resolving Parental Alienation

broken family through parental alienationDiscover what toxic behavior by a parent is, and how it effects the children in a family; how Parental Alienation is created; what red flags identify its presence; what steps can be taken to resolve Parental Alienation, and how the family court system needs to evolve in order to support families, rather than hinder them.

Participants will learn:

  • The elements and degrees of Parental Alienation.
  • The range of mild, moderate and severe alienation that is produced by toxic behavior of a parent.
  • What Parental Alienation looks and feels like to a child and the rejected parent.
  • Why a parent would turn their child against their other parent.
  • How Parental Alienation has become a worldwide epidemic.
  • How severe Parental Alienation can be resolved, and why it takes a village.

Why Children Become the Weapon of Choice in a Divorce

When it comes to divorce, emotions run high. When one parent turns against the other and uses their child as the lever, the ego is usually in play. Anger and revenge take control and the battles that follow rarely make sense to the outsider . . . but to the parent who initiates the toxic action, it makes total sense. The weapons of words, clashes and warfare lead to unthinkable outcomes that can last a lifetime.

What happens unconsciously to the child who rejects a parent is that he or she begins to reject half of themselves. Why? Because the child’s sense of self comes from both parents.

Participants will learn:

  • What Parental Alienation is and its key elements.
  • The difference between mild, moderate and severe alienation.
  • Why a parent might choose to alienate their child from the other parent.
  • What happens to a child who rejects a loving parent.
  • Why it is so difficult to identify Parental Alienation.
  • What is necessary to resolve Parental Alienation.

What Happens When One Parent Turns Toxic?

parents yelling child covering earsWhen parents don’t get along, the stakes are high. When a divorce happens and parents are pitted against each other in a custody battle, the stakes can become catastrophic. Might there be a way to avoid the court fight and instead help parents to establish a fair parenting plan that fits their individual family’s needs?

Participants will learn:

  • How Parental Alienation is a desperate power play to gain control.
  • Common signs that a parent is being setup for failure by the other parent.
  • Common emotional reactions of the rejected parent and why they are misunderstood.
  • Three underlying assumptions that support fair sharing of parental responsibilities.
  • Evolving changes needed in the family court system in order to recognize and address Parental Alienation.